Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Friends?! Talk To Us Tuesday

Going through this relocation, adjustment, and chaos to Tulsa leaves me sometimes feeling alone. I have Michael, of course, to talk to, but sometimes I just want my friends to be around. Luckily, I am over the upset and crying part of moving, so at least that is a positive. But I can't help but wonder...a lot....where the hell are my friends! I feel like I have hit the out of sight out of mind deal. Having some of these girls around almost weekly to hang out at the house and have a glass or wine, or go out for a night out.

I have a few really good friends that I know will always be there for me. No. Matter. What! A few of these girls don't even live in the same state as I do, but we can always talk and pick up like we see each other all of the time. They truly are amazing friends to have in my life.

Then there are the people that I saw a lot. Some I even grew up with. Do you just grow apart from someone (all of a sudden, when you're moving)? Realize you aren't that close after all? I will be at my house next week, and was hoping to get together with a few girls. But how can you ask if you don't talk. No returned texts, calls, messages. So this is telling me to not think about it anymore and waste any more energy on this. I want to be like, 'YO PEOPLE! I'm still here. I haven't died. Guess what, you can talk to me!'

I can't help but feel a little hurt, but I guess that's life. Expect the unexpected and keep your head up. I thank God for the wonderful friends that I do have in my life and cherish the close friends that I do have. I am slowly starting to meet people here in Tulsa and that is always reassuring.


An Imperfect Momma said...

That so happened to me! We moved to Maryland, stayed facebook friends with them...but they never talked to me. Never. no calls, texts or facebook messages. It hurts but its a way to see who your friends really are.

sara said...

That happened to me with all my college friends. People I thought would be in my life forever didn't like it when I grew up, got a real job, got married and didn't want to go out drinking until 2 in the morning. I still miss some of them, but I figure if I put in the effort and they didn't then it wasn't a healthy friendship anyway. Hope you start feeling less hurt soon!

VandyJ said...

I live in a college town. People turn over here about every 4-5 years. Makes making friends complicated.
Hope you can make new friends that last in Tulsa.

Becca @ R We There Yet Mom? said...

It stinks to have no return communication. And no matter how hard you try to NOT be bothered by it, you can't. It sounds like you have a good perspective of it though.

Best wishes!


Impulsive Addict said...

I see on your side bar that you know ShaRhonda. See? You're already making friends in Tulsa and WE WILL get together soon. And I'll bring JennyKate. She has a blog. She's hilarious! Tulsa will be good to you. I promise.

Your bad friends suck. Big time. It's time for new ones! Thanks for linking up my new friend!

Anonymous said...

It really does suck when you lose friends. Kinda going through the same thing. One of my best friends moved, its only a hour away. But I call, text and nothing.

VintageRomance said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog! I totally get how you feel! It's my newer friends that text me more than my old!

P.S that silhouette was super easy! Easier than I thought it would be! Can't wait to see yours

ShaRhonda said...

Oh honey, I guess we need to get together SOOOOOON! We do have a date next Thursday at the fair! We are gonna have a blast! Okay, your post breaks my heart that you are hurting. I have a post for you that I wrote over at The RHOK that I want you to read. Hugs!!!


Heidi said...

I totally get where you're coming from. We've moved in the last year and I've had the same experience.

I've come to realize that some folks are just more 'out of sight, out of mind' type people.
I don't doubt our friendship/closeness at all I just know by experience this particular friend is largely plugged in to life right in front of her.

It still does stink though. Hope you get plugged in soon with some new gal pals.


missy. said...

don't worry about it. you will make great friends and soon! plus you have impulsive addict close by, she is always a good time. xoxo

AndreaLeigh said...

i've moved to different states 5 times in the last year, so I totally get what you are saying. I've found I do lose touch with friendships. It is sad! Even when you have the best of intentions, those friendships lose steam unless you commit yourself to calling/emailing etc weekly.

Shawn said...

I'm sorry I didn't make it by last week...life happened

I've moved several times but only once out of state. I'm not sure what I would do if I had to leave the comforts of home! I would feel just like you if I felt like my friends had abandoned me, I'm sorry!

Thanks for linking up...I hope to see you again this week, we can be virtual freinds!